The TV programme Married At First Sight, which aired on Channel 4 shows strangers meeting their future husband or wife at the alter – for the very first time. The fact people would choose to legally marry a total stranger, instead of navigating the dating scene tells us that it has become so much of a minefield that people are at dating breaking point and willing to throw in the towel.
However the show seems to insinuate there is a magic formula, mainly based in DNA, to find love. As a matchmaker I know that the truth is, there is no such thing. Sorry.
We might have more ways to date than ever before – endless dating apps, websites and quirky dating events. Yet despite that, it’s harder than ever to find someone you actually want to spend quality time with, let alone spend your life with. When you find that person, you want to be getting married for the right reasons. Whilst marriage isn’t for everyone, it should be taken seriously.
So what is the answer? Well, you can give love a helping hand by ditching the apps. After all, none of the greatest love stories start with ‘It was love at first swipe.’ But it’s not just the apps, it is our reliance on technology in general. Often we are we too busy looking down at our phones that we could be missing the perfect partner standing next to us on the bus. Those chance encounters, the fleeting smiles, the spontaneous awkward conversations, and the backward glances that make your day, it’s all about looking up and noticing real people right in front of you.
We can increase the number of people we meet and connect with every day simply by looking up. So this week take the plunge and be open to meeting someone new, strike up a conversation and open up your body language (but maybe wait at least a few dates until you walk down the aisle).
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