6 ways to think outside the box when dating
Do you ever struggle through first dates?
Finding someone you fancy and asking them out (or flirting with them until they ask you) can be difficult enough.
Then, you finally meet that beautiful stranger for a date and there’s no spark. Super-frustrating.
An underrated part of arranging a date is selecting the location.
Most people ‘go for a drink’ near their home or workplace, then leave wondering why their date was as awkward and uninspiring as the last one. It’s the main cause of forgettable first dates.
Here are six reasons to think outside the box when setting up a date.
1. It shows you care
With Tinder and other hook-up apps becoming more popular, today’s dating environment is faster-paced than ever. An attractive person could easily arrange three or four dates every week, if they were that way inclined.
This has taken some of the spark out of asking someone out though. Women still want to be made to feel special, not like the next person you asked to the pub.
Arranging a unique date location is a great way of achieving that.
2. They're more likely to accept
Lots of people find first dates intimidating. Many will cancel at the last minute if they’re feeling even slightly anxious.
So, why not arrange an activity they’ll actually look forward to? This will enhance the odds of them accepting your invite - and they’ll be less likely to flake.
3. Any silences are less awkward
If you’re sat in a cafe or a bar, there’s no stimulus other than the conversation, so any silences are immediately obvious.
That’s not how it feels when you go and do something entertaining. The breaks in conversation will seem more natural because there’s other things capturing your attention.
This relieves the pressure to talk endlessly in an effort to avoid those awkward silences.
4. You’ll always have something to talk about
If you’re at an entertaining date venue, you’ll always have something to talk about. Just discuss what’s going on around you.
This is far easier than plucking topics out of thin air.
5. You’ll have fun
Some people get so stressed about dating, they forget it’s supposed to be fun.
If you set up an entertaining date location, you’ll enjoy yourself, even if there isn’t that immediate special connection.
If the other person had fun too, they’re far more likely to accept that invite for a second date.
6. It makes you stand out
It might be easier than ever to set up dates, but that has made many of us lazy about it. If you make the effort to organise something awesome, you’ll stand out from the crowd.
This will impress your crush more than you realise. It’ll go a long way to making you that catch they want to see again and again.
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AUTHOR BIOJoe Elvin is a professional magazine journalist and the founder of http://www.thelondondater.co.uk/the-london-bucket-list he website that sends 7 unique London dating ideas straight to your email inbox